Aaron refutes love.

At least, that’s the way cynical and misanthropic Paul (is there any other kind?) likes to read his blog post on why romantic relationships only have instrumental value (to get yer rocks off, apparently), while non-romantic friendships have intrinsic value.

This has the Official Paul Gowder Grouchy Seal of Approval, which I hereby create and reserve solely for non-misanthropic blog posts that nonetheless provide excellent support for misanthro-Americans, advancing our noble crusade for equal rights and the destruction of all humanity.


Edit: Sigh. Welcome, I suppose, ladyblog readers. If you actually want “the other side” (but you don’t — who are we kidding?), you should ignore this post, which was meant only to note an interesting post that amused, and not to, you know, actually articulate some kind of defense of it. For the latter, start with the comments to this post.


2 Responses to “Aaron refutes love.”

  1. Ladyblog » Blog Archive » Friends and Lovers Says:

    [...] Amber and Belle have an interesting exchange up on lurve, one that’s also a take-down of a rather angsty post up elsewhere on the same subject. Aaron Weingott defines romantic relationships as a form of Aristotelian "pleasure friendship," arguing that romantic relationships have only extrinsic value, unlike deep friendships. (I tend to agree with Amber that the original post is fundamentally a "bros before hos" argument, albeit one gussied-up in philosophy-student languange. For the other side, see here.) [...]

  2. Refuting Love? Perhaps not Completely « Aaron Weingott Says:

    [...] Posted in Ethics, Living, Relationships I have a feeling that I’ll have a whole lot more to say about relationships yet. But before that happens, I feel that I should write some kind of a disclaimer, or give any readers hope about…life. Upon reading my posts discussing romantic relationships, readers might feel somewhat hopeless. Haven’t I just completely demoted romance and that variety of love? Some of the strongest feelings we experience are towards those we are attracted to. The most affinity is felt with them, and the most value is ascribed to them. Isn’t that a huge thing to take from people? Has Aaron really refuted love?* [...]

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